This is the secret of the je ne sais quoi . The “I don’t know what” is not a mystical property but a relational one. It is the gap where the observer projects their own humanity.
Music provides a clearer example. Compare a MIDI-perfect performance of a Chopin nocturne to a recording by Arthur Rubinstein. Rubinstein plays “wrong” notes, rubatos that stretch time, pedals that blur harmonies. These are not mistakes; they are the “little something extra” of interpretation. The score is the instruction; the performance is the surplus. A Little Something Extra
The “extra” here is narrative. It turns a mistake (lost toy) into a myth. The rational solution would be mailing the toy. The extra is the story. In 1966, psychologist Elliot Aronson discovered the “Pratfall Effect”: competent individuals become more likable after committing a minor blunder (spilling coffee, admitting a weakness). Conversely, mediocre individuals become less likable. The “little something extra” here is a controlled imperfection . This is the secret of the je ne sais quoi