Yet the book’s historical importance is beyond dispute. Before My Secret Garden , there was virtually no public conversation about women’s erotic imagination. After it, that conversation became impossible to avoid. Nancy Friday went on to write several more books on female and male sexuality, including Forbidden Flowers (1975) and Men in Love (1980). But My Secret Garden remained her most famous work.
What shocked many readers—and what remains striking today—was the sheer variety. Some fantasies were gentle romantic scenarios. Others were violent, transgressive, or politically incorrect by any era’s standards. Women fantasized about being overpowered, about watching others have sex, about sex with animals, about incestuous encounters (often with guilt attached), and about purely anonymous, emotionless pleasure. My Secret Garden By Nancy Friday
Second-wave feminists were divided. Some praised Friday for demystifying female desire and rejecting the male-dominated narrative of what women should want. Others accused her of handing ammunition to the patriarchy—proof, they worried, that women secretly craved submission, rape fantasies, and male dominance. Yet the book’s historical importance is beyond dispute